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Dates with a Purpose February 2021

02.23.21 | Marriage | Hub | Dates with a Purpose | by Molly Riedel

    Enjoy this quiz to see how well you know your partner and it can also be used with other relationships like friends, children and parents. 

    This is a great way to start meaningful conversations.                                                                        

    DrPhil.com     Partner Awareness Quiz

    Don't make the mistake of thinking that you already know your partner inside out. Instead, without judgmental attitudes and with an open mind, give your best, most objective attention to this fascinating enterprise. 

    Answer the following questions as honestly as you can. Remember that you need to do this without consulting your partner. The point is to assess how aware of your partner you are now. Make this an honest appraisal. 

    True      False

    I can name my partner's three best friends.               

    I know what accomplishments my partner is most proud of.               

    I can identify the happiest time in my partner's life.               

    I know what my partner considers to be his or her greatest losses in life.               

    I can describe what my partner considers to be his or her greatest area of difficulty in interacting with each of his parents.               

    I know what will be probably be playing on the radio when my partner is driving somewhere.               

    I can name the relatives that my partner would most likely try to avoid at a family reunion.               

    I can describe the most traumatic event that occurred in my partner's childhood. 

    My partner has clearly identified for me what he or she wants in life.

    I can identify the obstacles that my partner believes are preventing his or her getting what he or she wants.               

    I know which of my partner's physical features he or she is least happy about.               

    I can recall the very first impressions I had of my partner.               

    I know what section of the Sunday newspaper my partner is likely to turn to first.               

    I can describe, in some detail, the home environment in which my partner was raised.               

    I know what makes my partner laugh.               

    I know what my partner's parents would probably say is the thing about my partner that they are most proud of.               

    I can describe two or three decisions my partner made before we met that my partner now regrets — and my partner can do the same about me.               

    I know which part of a restaurant menu my partner is likely to look at first.               

    I can quote three things my partner says to me that he or she says to no one else in this world.               

    I am thoroughly familiar with my partner's religious beliefs.                               

    SCORE MY TEST

    Scoring:

    Give yourself 1 point for each True answer.

    0 to 9 - Miles to go, but the perfect opportunity on hand

    10 or higher - Fairly accurate profile, but with much exploration and discovery ahead 

    After you answer these true and false questions- go back and talk about the actual answers to these questions for example, “What part of the restaurant menu would you look at first?”  

    What a great way to learn more about your partner or your children or your friends. Remember this is not a contest or a competition but a way to learn more about each other.  Be curious.  Laugh and have fun.